Dawnie

 Since she claims that I make posts about her and I hate her, I might as well actually put it out there. Not that she would ever read this or even know how to click the link because she is illiterate and refuses to be taught ANYTHING. Instead, she wants to talk about her own problems from at least 70 years ago, until one of her dozens of husbands died....

I made a post near the end of October about my dad and "crazy lady". Since then, he was hospitalized again, for another seizure and another UTI. My oldest brother bought dad a pill dispenser with an alarm he refuses to use because it bothers Dawnie. So, he forgets to take his pills and could have a seizure at any moment. When I bother him about taking his medications, he always shrugs it off. But when Dawnie tells him he has to take a probiotic drink daily, he is very particular to make sure it happens. 

She has kicked him out 3 more times. The 1st of those times I told them both to "get their shit together" and that couples don't handle things by running away and kicking the other one out. I said I was tired of putting my family and my own life on hold for their stupid arguments and that they needed to figure things out before calling me.

The next time, I got a call from the police station asking me to pick up my dad who had been found wandering the neighborhood near the train tracks after a "disagreement" with his wife. When I got there, dad had twigs in his beanie and he had been crying. Police asked me to take him with me for at least a night, and I hoped it would be permanent this time. Later we found out that Dawnie had called the police when my dad said he needed to go for a walk during a heated discussion. Dad went to the train yard nearby and found a cardboard box to sleep on. After 4 days/5 nights here he went back. The whole time he was here I told him how unhealthy this was. He just kept blaming himself for everything and refused to hear a word I said.

This last time, my dad had called me at least once every day for 5-6 days. I was tired of his calls to cry about his nutty wife. I was out to dinner with Jason for Valentine's Day and my dad called. For the first time, I ignored his call. Shortly after, my daughter Nessa text "Grandpa is here. He said Dawnie kicked him out."

That was Thursday the 12th. On the 13th we went to get his things, and she wouldn't answer the door or his calls/texts. I called the police to do a wellness check, and she answered the door. She also answered messages from my brother and claimed my dad hadn't called her and she was too afraid to answer the door. She had her freaking phone in her hand, scrolling through Facebook, and answered the police at the door and my brothers' call but claimed not to have known Dad was calling and texting, and she was afraid to answer the door...... On the 14th I had to take Nessa to several stores to find parts for a last-minute Valentine's craft for her boyfriend. After 3 stores, dad asked if he could get a ride to Walmart. On the way, every time he saw someone on the roadside selling teddy bears, flowers, chocolates, gift baskets, he asked me to pull over so he could get Dawnie one. I politely refused. Sunday the 15th, I tried not to eavesdrop but they both talk really loud. And let's be honest.... I want to hear what the crazy b has to say anyway.

She told my dad he doesn't take care of her (I know for a fact he has spent money he doesn't have on date nights they don't' need. She can't settle for a walk in the park or an ice cream cone. She demands expensive dates). She told him he is irresponsible because when he asked my neighbor if he can rent the room they have advertised, they told him "The person in charge of that was in a car accident and is the hospital. Ask later" he didn't demand that they call this person AT THE HOSPITAL and DEMAND the room. (WTF!!!?!?!?!?!?) He should have done more. She told him he had to walk my dogs because he needed the exercise (one of the dogs is arthritic and can't make it around the block so this was dumb and none of her business). When dad mentioned having to practically drag my dog, she got mad that he was too rough (she wasn't there!) and then demanded to know why Jason and I weren't the ones walking the dogs (SHE is the one that told him he had to. She never bothered finding out what our routines and habits are) After a few minutes, I couldn't sit back. I finally went in and told her that he didn't need to rent a room now that she kicked him out and he was living with family. The bankruptcy only requires the entire household's income if it is your spouse. She refused to hear me, and insisted my dad tell her. So, I told my dad what to say. She insisted that this was wrong, because the financial planner had told them otherwise. I explained that the financial planner told them what he "thought" and then found out from an actual bankruptcy attorney the details and passed them on to me. She refused to believe this and called the financial expert incompetent. Until my dad explained it to her, with my help. But even then, she accused my dad of being stupid (in not so many words) for believing the planner and choosing such an incompetent person. 

Today is the 16th. He told me today that he plans to go back as soon as the bankruptcy is finalized (see previous CRAZY LADY post). I told him that if I were being treated the way Dawnie treats him, he would do everything in his power to get me away from that man. I know so, because he did it when I was in high school. I told him that if Jason had even said "if a man treated a woman that way, he'd be charged with abuse" I have told him that I don't like who he is when he's with her. That I have lost my Daddy and only get to see the Daddy that raised me and took care of me my whole life when he is away from her.

He calls her several times a day, goes shopping with her (because she "can't go alone, she's too anxious)

She talks down to him, mocks him, criticizes his family, claims we attack her on social media, she demeans my dad and looks down on me (and tells him he should look down on me) for "allowing" me to have gay children or kids that don't attend church. Keep in mind, her kids don't attend either.....

She lies. She lives in the past. She manipulates. She abuses and attacks at the weakest points my dad has. 

He blames himself. The man that took care of his dying wife of 50 years, is adored by his kids, grandkids, and great grandkids, the man that drove me to almost every ECT treatment for 2 years, and helped me with everything I needed as a single mom. He takes the blame for a failed relationship with this psychotic person. He refuses to see anything wrong with her because he thinks he has to take care of her. 

WTF Dawnie. Leave my daddy alone, let me have him back.