Treatment Resistant, but Resilient

 Friday May 1st was Dad's 76th birthday, and Faith's sweet 16th. After the celebrations, I went outside for some yard work since it had cooled down. After a while, I sat down on the front porch to relax in the silence. Suddenly, a car parked in front of my house, and 2 figures came towards me. It was dark so I had no idea who it was. One of them handed me a card and said "give this to Mark please" then walked off without another word. The figure behind that one peeked out from behind the suburban. It was Dawnie. She asked if my dad was home, and if she could see him. I told her I would ask him. I ran inside, panicked. I didn't want her there. I didn't want to let her see Dad. I didn't know how to respond. Jason was asleep, the kids were in bed, and Dad was in the bathroom. I thought that was a perfect reason to tell her he couldn't talk and she would leave. But she didn't care. She asked to wait. I told her she could come inside, and instead of wai...

Carson only spent one night in jail. He didn't get any mental health treatment; he was locked up and then sent home with charges of domestic violence and property damage.  I got a letter regarding a court date for a charge he received while in residential treatment. Then I got a letter regarding a charge for the DV and property damage. One is juvenile court, one is regular adult court. The juvenile court is combining all the charges, the one from residential treatment, and the 3 charges I made for property damage. I have no idea what to expect with that. We have been to court 4 times now, and nothing has happened. The first 2 were the arraignments. He was told not to say anything while the public defender asked for more time to review the case. Court was rescheduled in both instances. Then we went back, and both defense attorneys said they still didn't have the necessary police records so they had to reschedule.  On top of all this, there is another pending charge because Cars...

 Today, my nightmares came to life. Today, my son was taken to the hospital and then moved to jail. Today, I am not OK. It started last night (4/13). Carson was upset about not getting to spend time with friends because he threw eggs at my garage Sunday (4/12) and I was making him clean it up. He would half-ass the job, them come in. I would then see that he wasn't done cleaning it up and make him go back out. Then it started raining so I told him it could wait until after school Monday.  Monday after school, he went outside and claimed it was done on 3 separate occasions. Each time I told him it wasn't done, he threw a tantrum, screaming and cursing about never being good enough. I managed to stay calm. After he finally got the egg cleaned off the doors (banging the door and causing damage), I had to point out that the dirt on the garage door also needed to be cleaned off, since it was only there because it got stuck to egg residue. He grabbed the hose, and sprayed the entire...

 Since she claims that I make posts about her and I hate her, I might as well actually put it out there. Not that she would ever read this or even know how to click the link because she is illiterate and refuses to be taught ANYTHING. Instead, she wants to talk about her own problems from at least 70 years ago, until one of her dozens of husbands died.... I made a post near the end of October about my dad and "crazy lady". Since then, he was hospitalized again, for another seizure and another UTI. My oldest brother bought dad a pill dispenser with an alarm he refuses to use because it bothers Dawnie. So, he forgets to take his pills and could have a seizure at any moment. When I bother him about taking his medications, he always shrugs it off. But when Dawnie tells him he has to take a probiotic drink daily, he is very particular to make sure it happens.  She has kicked him out 3 more times. The 1st of those times I told them both to "get their shit together" and th...

 My dad has been kicked out by his "wife" at least 6 times. Pretty sure it's closer to 10. It seems she thinks he is not taking good enough care of her. Here's how it goes: She feels a man should always take care of a woman. This includes dates, that she chooses, and it doesn't matter how expensive it is. He pays the property taxes on HER HOUSE. He pays for the groceries. He pays for utilities. He pays for cell phones. She spends $500/month on DOG FOOD!!!!! (deep breaths...try not to swear at this crazy b!) If he doesn't plan dates or forgets one of those bills (because he has DEMENTIA or because the account is already in HER NAME because she never added him to the statements) it is HIS FAULT and she screams at him. When he fights back or tries to argue, she kicks him out. Then he beats himself up for "not being the man she needs and deserves" or for "not taking good enough care of her", he begs her to take him back, she continues to demean...

For as long as I can remember, I have been a Daddy's Girl. My mom encouraged it. She never knew her dad, and she wanted her kids to be close to their dad. But it didn't take much for me to be Daddy's girl. I have always thought of him as my hero, my rock, my friend, and sometimes even my therapist. I wanted to be close to him all the time. I wanted his advice for every big event.  When my mom died, I figured we would just become even closer because he would need me as much as I had always needed him. But he immediately started looking for a new wife. He pushed away everything I did. Every effort to be with him, spend time together, help him grieve, receive comfort from him in my own grief, was pushed away. He just wanted to move on. Within 6 months of mom's death, he had been engaged, broken up, been scammed for thousands of dollars, sent nudes, promised himself to a woman, finally accepted the advice of ALL his kids to break up with her, and then got engaged again. Not...