Crazy Lady Saga Part 2

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 My dad has been kicked out by his "wife" at least 6 times. Pretty sure it's closer to 10. It seems she thinks he is not taking good enough care of her. Here's how it goes:

She feels a man should always take care of a woman. This includes dates, that she chooses, and it doesn't matter how expensive it is.

He pays the property taxes on HER HOUSE.

He pays for the groceries.

He pays for utilities.

He pays for cell phones.

She spends $500/month on DOG FOOD!!!!! (deep breaths...try not to swear at this crazy b!)

If he doesn't plan dates or forgets one of those bills (because he has DEMENTIA or because the account is already in HER NAME because she never added him to the statements) it is HIS FAULT and she screams at him. When he fights back or tries to argue, she kicks him out. Then he beats himself up for "not being the man she needs and deserves" or for "not taking good enough care of her", he begs her to take him back, she continues to demean and manipulate him, and he keeps apologizing then she finally agrees to take him back.

A couple of those times it was because she found out her assumptions were wrong. She accused him of not paying HER property taxes. Then found out they were being paid. She accused him of not paying for utilities (FOR TWO YEARS!!) because she never added him to the account or allowed him access to put his bank information on it. Now, the most recent is that she kicked him out because he "isn't being responsible" as he files for bankruptcy.

I guess my dad didn't realize he was collecting on my mom's social security. She died 2.5 years ago, and the government found out finally. So, they took all the money back. Sure, that's dumb and dad should pay for it. Consider his dementia though. It's kind of understandable/forgivable.

So, he gave back his car, since he can't drive, got a financial planner, and started the paperwork for bankruptcy. When it came time for Dawnie to provide her income information, she refused. She demanded another opinion, then another. She was advised many, many, many times that if she refused to provide her income statement (just a simple letter from the bank, with her account information blacked out) he could not file. She still refused. Then told him he was being irresponsible and that the financial planner didn't know anything. She kicked him out. This crazy PSYCHOTIC woman dropped my dad on my porch without talking to me. She told him to figure it out.

Once he found out he can file bankruptcy now that he is physically separated and living with family, she said she will take him back as soon as he finishes the process. She won't help him, calls him irresponsible, mocks him, discredits a professional, kicks him out, then tells him that she will take him back "ON HER TERMS"

I have been so angry the last few weeks. She is a crazy bitch. There is nothing else that can be said.

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